How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, My husband and I are in our late 40s, and for the last several months, he ...

I hate how I’ll sound writing this, but my girlfriend may be too aroused in bed for me to enjoy it. Let me explain. Every time we go for penetration, she’s so wet there’s hardly any friction, and I ...